About
monica mcmillan, christian life coach
I help smart, ambitious, compassionate women get clear about what matters most and help them cultivate that life.
If you’re an ambitious Christian woman like me...
You work hard.
You care deeply about others.
You want to make an impact in the world.
You set goals.
You play many roles in life.
God created me to have big dreams, to love people, and to get things done. All amazing gifts, but when taken to the extreme there is a dark side.
I was a consultant who worked 60++ hours a week. I volunteered. I baked homemade. I went to church. I participated in small groups. I rallied for happy hours. I attended every birthday party. Every charity function. Every baby shower, every wedding shower. I double and tripled booked determined to show up for people, determined to do it all…
Christian Life Coach for Ambitious Women
Hi, I'm Monica.
I gave.
I performed.
I pleased.
I perfected.
I compared.
I served.
I loved.
I said yes, yes, yes.
I learned my motivation behind my ‘yeses’. I practiced saying no.
Through this journey I realized that I was placing my hope in the wrong things. It was no wonder that my joy was constantly influx – my foundation was built on the definition of worldly “success” (job, money, people’s approval of me, how I looked...). When my circumstances were not ideal, I fell apart!
Little by little I started to understand what mattered most to me (and what I needed to stay sane) and structured my daily habits to feed those areas of my life:
More Jesus. More family time. More fun and adventure. More stillness. More nos.
I quit my job and became a certified life coach so I could help other women who face these similar issues.
(And just in case you are wondering, I am still a work in progress.)
How could such good things lead me feeling so hollow, depleted, stressed and void of knowing what gave me joy? I barely slept. My anxiety was high. My body was revolting, begging me to notice.
My calendar was full, but my life wasn’t fulfilling. I felt trapped by an over-scheduled life, while experiencing a deep ache for something meaningful. So I prayed.
God answered my prayers when my newly hired coach challenged me to quit my job (one of my major sources of depletion) by quoting Rumi:
Why do you stay in prison when the door is so wide open?
That was my ‘aha! moment’ when I realized that I was actually CHOOSING to live a life of stress, overwhelm, and insecurity. It was the wake-up call I needed to start making major changes.
My journey was about understanding who I was, my hopes and dreams, my values and my faith.
My calendar was full, but my life wasn't fulfilling.
Through this journey, I realized I was placing my hope in the wrong things.
I believe that your ambition and desire to do your best comes from a place of wanting to make a positive impact. Yet, I know all too well how that drive is also leaving your feeling depleted, overwhelmed, and insecure.
God has given YOU this one BEAUTIFUL life and I want to help you discover a healthy way to focus your ambition.
Together, we will start cultivating a courageous + on-purpose life that focuses on the priorities, dreams and people that matter most to you!
We will examine what unhealthy habits you need to let go of including:
Busy and overwhelm
Debilitating expectations
Comparison
Too many yeses
This work is about freeing you up to live a joyful, purposeful, meaningful life of connection that glorifies God.
I know first hand what it’s like to be held back by the chains of perfection, overwork + and not-enough-ness….and that’s what I am here to help you overcome.
Friend, we can do this together. One day and one decision at a time.
How can I serve you?
LEARN MORE ABOUT 1:1 COACHING
Certified Life Coach - The Coaches Training Institute (CTI)
Married to Clarence
Mother to 3 rambunctious boys: Harry, 8, Clark, 5, Isaac, 1
Co-parent (Yep, we have a blended family!)
Lover of books
Foodie
Collector of experiences, not things
ENTJ (An extrovert that needs quiet time and a thinker who is very in touch with my feelings!)
A Bit More About Me
London Fogs
Earl grey tea, 2 shots of vanilla, and steamed milk.
Podcasts
Makes running errands much more bearable.
Soundtrack to Trolls & Moana
My kids and I jam to it – Hair up, Hair up!
Dark Chocolate-Covered Everything
Apricots, almonds, caramel, bacon
Things I'm Loving
People’s Stories
Possibility of a New Day
Art (Not innately artistic myself, though I believe we all have a creative side!)
Jesus. His radical love. His obedience. His grace and mercy.
Oceans. Mountains. The everyday beauty that surrounds me.
A child’s heart. The simplicity. The earnestness. The authenticity.
What Inspires Me
"My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me."
2 Corinthians 12:9
